{Forty days in Lent and forty rooms to explore…that’s where we’ve been and where we are headed.}

The room where our kids grew up was the den in our home in Settlers’ Landing.

That neighborhood was in the Chesterfield County suburb of Richmond, a subdivision that had been intended to be a little Williamsburg. Originally a wooded area between two older developments and including the property of a former Girl Scout camp, Settlers’ Landing would have included some sizeable “colonial” homes, in Williamsburg-approved colors, on smaller lots. But the developer apparently built only two or three homes before the concept failed. So, the bank(s) took it over (as I understand it) and much smaller homes were constructed by three or four different construction companies. But the Williamsburg/colonial idea remained, if downsized. When we bought our lot and had a home built, only certain exterior colors were allowed.

Our home was a two story, four bedroom house. Like most of the other neighboring homes, the first floor plan included a living room, dining room, kitchen, and den. Since this had become a kind of “starter home” neighborhood, it turned out that a few first-time homebuyers had too little furniture to place in a formal living room, and those rooms were nearly vacant! Nice carpet, a chair…that was about it. Not many folks used the so-called living room. They did their living in the den.

Now, we did have living room furniture, including Joan’s childhood piano on which she taught lessons to neighborhood kids. But we too lived mostly in the den. It and the kitchen ran across the back of the house, almost as one room. That was especially convenient early on. Joan could watch our two young children while preparing meals. All that divided the space was a kitchen table. And the tiny furnace room placed conveniently mid-house, since the home was built during the energy crisis of the mid-1970s.

The den furniture was from “This End Up,” a brand of “crate” furniture popular at the time. It was so sturdy that the heavy wooden sofa, chair, and foot stool survived for decades, and is probably still being used somewhere today. A fireplace provided winter comfort and warm ambiance between two built-in bookcases filled with a pastor’s library and some pleasure reading as well. We were told that the “old brick” used for the fireplace, as well as the decorative brick along the exterior foundation, had come from an old demolished downtown Richmond building. We liked that it was rescued brick.

My eye is drawn to the National Geographic collection. And Joan’s in a bentwood rocker; not a wheelchair!

The lower bookcase cabinets held the 19″ color TV on one side and my turntable, amp, and reel-to-reel on the other. Large wood cabinets held the 12″ tri-axial Utah audio speakers. And when we tinkered with house plans, we asked the builder to wire some headphone jacks into the wall between the den and living room. I liked lying in the middle of the living room floor late at night, listening to music plugged into those audio jacks. Some nights, from the upstairs bedroom, Joan would hear the record “stick” while I had fallen asleep during side B. She’d have to wake me up to change LPs. Yes, she, upstairs, had heard the music from my headphones. It’s a wonder I have any hearing left.

Our two kids spent hours each day in the den. Watching TV, reading, playing games. Wendy had her dolls and Jim his Legos. Birthday parties, family visits, and just day-to-day living happened there. And at Christmas, we put a Chrismon tree in the living room, but the den was home to the bigger one with the kids’ presents, and stockings tacked under the fireplace mantel. On one wall at the back of the room was a large corkboard, complete with the kind of things magnets now attach to fridges. Plus a map of the U.S. Or, was it the whole the world?

Jim’s pet became our pet too

So, there were the four of us lounging on This End Up or lying on the striped carpet floor. Plus, soon, the fifth member of the family: Ivan the Terrible. The green monster. Our mini-Godzilla. Ivan came from the pet store a four-inch, very green, iguana. By the time he or she (never really knew….only suspected) went to lizard heaven, that 18 year-old pet was well over three feet, head to tail. If it were not for the size of the cages through the years, we suspect Ivan might have been even longer.

It was Jim’s creature, and he was a responsible caretaker. Oh, the stories we could tell. About the lizard’s diet, about how she/he didn’t like to be handled, about that love of collard greens, about how infrequently she/he pooped. About once a week, I’d guess. So our den surrounded that cage, its heat rocks, sunlamp, climbing logs, etc. For a pet you couldn’t actually, well, pet–we loved that thing. And when an Asian exchange student visited once, she was fascinated by how Ivan just sat there and stared. And stared. “Just like the Buddha,” she said.

When we look at the photos of our two children in their early years, the chances are very good that the picutres were taken in that den.

I have no conclusion for you about this personal history of ours. A couple of readers have told me that my “rooms” have prompted memories of their own. I hope they are happy memories. Ours certainly were. Are!

Easter in the Settlers’ Landing den

{Another in the exciting, sometimes explosive series of revelations about “rooms.” But seriously, folks, I’m writing each day during Lent, and exploring some 40 rooms.}

When I was a kid, my Mom’s parents lived just two blocks away from our Liberty Ave. home in Endicott. As a very small child, before my three sisters had been born and when my younger brothers were toddlers, my grandparents would have me over for a day’s visit now and then. It provided Mom a little respite…a little. They were fun days for me there on Loder Avenue. I had some tin soldiers (yes, tin…not plastic) to play with, and cool streamlined 1940s toy cars. Grandma, who had been an elementary school teacher, would read to me, play the piano, teach me songs, and make baked bean sandwiches for lunch. In that kitchen, the radio was playing “Ma Perkins” or Don McNeill’s “Breakfast Club.” Another memory flash: raw clams to swallow whole.

And speaking of the kitchen there, it was the first time I encountered a “nook.” My grandparents had their morning meal in a small alcove off the kitchen, a “breakfast nook” they called it. (When their house went on the market a couple of years ago, Joan and I took the tour and that was one of the things I looked for. But an expansion had replaced the nook with an actual room. Another part of my childhood lost.)

A nook is defined as a small, secluded spot, or alcove. The word’s derivation is unknown, except that it has something to do with “four-cornered.” It’s not quite the “cubby hole” I remember from our earlier childhood home. That was like a boxed-in space in our bedroom, maybe three feet off the floor, probably meant to be for linen storage. But I could crawl into it and listen to my crystal set (my cigar-boxed first radio!) and feel very secure. Safe. Secluded. Away.

Recently as Lent began, Joan knew I was typing and said, “You should write about your nook.” Yes, I have a nook. I’m in it right now. When the house was designed, the builder intended a space just inside the front door to be a roomy entrance way. Then he added some book shelves. I liked that idea. But then the specs changed and he reverted to just a larger coat closet. Wait! Please put the shelves back, I begged. Well, requested. And he did.

My nook. No, I didn’t clean it up for this view. It’s just the way it is. No judging.

When we moved in, we discovered there was space enough for my computer desk, lots of books, my audio gear, Godzilla (the way-out-of-proportion house plant), and me. Soon, we called it my nook. Small, secluded, away from the main living area, far from Joan’s quilt room and from the kitchen where snacks might beckon if I were closer. This is not an escape, you understand, but a space for creativity, writing (occasional sermons still, and blogs), communications (email, Facebook), and audio/video adventures. I record my weekly jazz show in my nook, edit vacation videos (yes, dear Joan, I’m way behind on the Ireland trip), and record the “Spirit of Jazz” podcast with Bill Carter. Next major nook-project: producing three short videos for the local Council of Churches.

Being just inside the front door, I can’t exactly hide here. But it is my space. Joan has her quilt room, and I my nook. In a small home, we are blessed with lots of space in common, but some room of our own too, dwelling places where we both create good things from messes, making the best of retirement. At home.

I hope you too have (or can make) some personal space, for leisure, productivity, or just being. Can you make room?